Many people take a defensive stance or use defensiveness as a mode or a method of survival. It can enter into our day-to-day relationships whether those relationships are personal or business. Blaming other people or situations for your problems or misery can be damaging to both your mental health, as well as a damaging aspect of any relationship.
How do you go about stopping the circle of playing the blame game? There are many sites such as truthinamerica.org that can provide tips. In addition, here is a look at a few ways to help your relationships by ceasing to blame others.
First, consider your contribution to the problem or situation. Analyze the mistakes you may have made, as this will move you forward to a solution. It really does no good to try and prove that the other person is completely in the wrong.
All of your actions and words are your responsibility. Remember there are always at least two individuals involved in any relationships. You need to admit to any mistakes you made. After you have acknowledge your mistakes, provide ways to correct it as well as ways to avoid repeating it.
Don’t assign any responsibility to the other person. Attempt to deal with the problem calmly and don’t let it go without resolution.
Avoid complaining and criticizing. These tactics are not effective tools for making a change. You should understand that while you can try to motivate the other person’s change, that change must come from that individual.
Don’t make the situation a power struggle. Accept that both of you may be right or you both may be wrong.